This morning Ron and I visited Frank and we spent about three hours with him. He was in the livingroom when we came in. The nursing staff wants to keep Frank out of his bed, in order to improve his sitting condition and endurance, but when Frank has nothing to do he just keeps asking to be put in bed again. So it was up to us to smash a hole in the day. We grabbed a cup of coffee, played Munchkin (which we really don't understand, but that doesn't matter to Frank, he's busy with the cards hardly noticing that we just try as hard as we can but probably "cheat" all the time). After that we went outside to listen to the music corps entertaining the walkers of the kalorama walkingmarch. Then we went inside looking to his new room, and then went back. It was 11.00 and Frank had told us that he was allowed to go to his bed, but the nurses indicated otherwise.......;-( "no he has to stay up until lunch, sitting in his chair eating really goes so much better, than laying down in his bed", so we took Frank to the gym and spent quit some time with the balloon and badminton rackets smashing the balloon around.
After that we went outside again, listened to some more music and when it started to rain (a very little bit) we went inside and it was, at last, lunchtime.
Lunch is soup, "mixmeuk" (as Frank call's it) and desert. The mixmeuk consists of mashed potatoes, vegetables and some very amorf jerk of beef. Matthieu, perhaps you can make Frank a truly horrible mixmeuk card for Frank's personal munchkin collection. Frank kept saying during his meal, "goddamn, you would even prefer mc donalds over this", and although he said it wasn't that tasty, he finished his meal within 20 minutes. After that he was allowed back into his bed and with the TV on and his friend Chris beside him we left.
It appears that he already developped the habbit of taking a midday nap even before the stroke. He told me that he spent quit some time "nice in bed, no disturbances, bookie with me nice reading". So that obviously was and still is comfort and quality of life for Frank.
Thousend times thanks!
To all the followers of the blog, to anyone who has been supportive of Frank or us in the last months and especially after his untimely death we want to say thanks from the bottom of our hearts. In the week after his passing we received so much warmth, stories, care and love, hardly describable. To us it was a very precious and valuable week and it was so good to have Frank at home where so many of his friends could visit him. And all the help, stories and info shared in that week led to a beautiful goodbye ceremony on a beautiful sunny autumn day. For those of you who could not attend, or those of you who wish to reread the funeral speeches, we publice them here (in dutch and english) with some pictures in grateful memory of, and tributed to Frank.We will miss him dearly, thanks for being with him and with us, one way or another,
On behalf of my family and his closest friends, Esther