One of the very special consequences of the current situation is that all kinds of people get to know eachother by and through Frank and this blog. Today, as we (Ron my husband, my mother and I) came in Frank, was lying in his bed. He felt much better than yesterday when he suffered a little fever. Also he had already done his physical exercises for today, so he was reading Xena, and expressing much quality of life "being in bed with my favourite books, ah that's pure enjoyment". I find it so courageous and admirable that Frank has the capacity and strentgh to find quality of life under the given circumstances, I'm very proud of him! But enough for this sucking, he might get arrogant ;-)
We proposed to make a tour around the SMK and he was ok with it so two very nice nurses helped Frank into his wheelchair and we left the ward on our way to "Het Rondeel" which is the restaurant of the SMK. We orded something to drink, Frank wanted to have a glas of milk and we ate some bread. It's so nice to see Frank eat and drink again and see him enjoying that. Oh yeah that reminds me of a "terrible" mistake during movementday, Andre, to my very very sincere apologies (hi hi) I have to admit that I forgot to take the leonidas box of choclates out of the car (WHAT?? Arghhh) and since it is 20-25 degrees celsius (and in the car probably more) you can guess what was left of it (the mousse Frank was suppopsed to eat when he still had his tube in.....). I suppose the time is right to buy a new box and eat it together with Frank and some friends during a wargame in de "casus belli dependance" (again a great doorcard from Matthieu!! Frank can't be missed if your looking for him!!).
But now for the people who get to know eachother. Everyone who knows Frank, knows he has a fantastic sense of humor and the best part of it, is that he also appreciates some good mocking on behalf of himself too. So on our return to the ward we came in and went to the livingroom. The TV was on and Frank switchted some channels and stuck to an episode of "the little house on the prairie". Now you have to know that he used to hate it, when we were kids and my sisters and me wanted to see it, but somehow he seems to have forgotten that, so I teased him a little. "Don't let anyone find out you're looking at this over-the-top-sugarsweet-feel-good-and-believe-in-god jerk, you probably will get discharged as a casus belli member and your honnorairy membership from Ducosim will be taken away" Frank laughed, and guess what, five minutes later some gentleman came walking in looking for Frank and it appeard to be the chair of Ducosim (Serge). It was such a funny coincidence, we bursted out laughing (and inspite of all my gossip Frank still has his memberships ;-))
I know Serge is a follower of the blog, so it was nice to see a face to a persons and likewise Serge expressed much gratitude to all the bloggers and now also has a face behind all these words. Serge told us that he met a guy at some auction, who appeared to be walter (also a follower) and they felt they knew eachother through the blog and could share their concern about Frank. Isn't it great, it feels as if there is a big warm supportive circle around Frank, and not only for Frank but to anyone who is affected by the missery Frank is suffering. And that are quite a lot of people.
Frank is looking forward to the rehab training, he's very motivated and cooperative, so let's hope that his brain will allow him to recover well, and that time will come again that he can decide for himself to get out or into his bed with a book, experiencing increasing quality of life.
If anyone whises to contribute to the blog or react to it, simply sign up a googleaccount and start reacting. Frank will have his Ipad next week (it's delivered here on monday) so after some customizing Frank will finally have it and I hope he will join the blog, starts mailing again and reading his favourite NRC thanks to all of you.
Words can't express the gratitude we all feel by so much warmth and support. Well so much for my report of today, having done my voluntary duty again I bid you all good night, love
Thousend times thanks!
To all the followers of the blog, to anyone who has been supportive of Frank or us in the last months and especially after his untimely death we want to say thanks from the bottom of our hearts. In the week after his passing we received so much warmth, stories, care and love, hardly describable. To us it was a very precious and valuable week and it was so good to have Frank at home where so many of his friends could visit him. And all the help, stories and info shared in that week led to a beautiful goodbye ceremony on a beautiful sunny autumn day. For those of you who could not attend, or those of you who wish to reread the funeral speeches, we publice them here (in dutch and english) with some pictures in grateful memory of, and tributed to Frank.We will miss him dearly, thanks for being with him and with us, one way or another,
On behalf of my family and his closest friends, Esther