This morning Frank woke up, not when I entered the room (quietly) but when the nurse came in and said in a rather loud voice, "hello goodmorning Frank". He opened his eyes and was pretty well present for about 15 minutes. He told me that he wanted some bread with herring ("eel also would be nice..."), I read him some postcards from Serge on behalf of Ducosim ("tell Serge thanks for the postcard), from Chris with a lovely painting from Vicky (it's above his head on the wall), "Vicky she is such a darling, tell her...". And he indicated that he wanted his watch.
After my deception yesterday concerning the radio, today there was a sudden solution for this inconvenience. On my route to Frank I visited his mum and she wholeheartedly gave her cableproof radio with remote control for Frank, glad that she could do anything (and she hates apparatus with more than one switch, which was this radio definitely) so Frank is now the proud owner of a great radio, with his favourite BBC world service and within 5 minutes he knew how to handle the remote control, quiet remarkable.
But back to the watch, he told me he wanted his watch and he wanted it around his left arm. For the ones who haven't seen Frank, the left side of his body is paralized, and the awareness of his left body isn't optimal either. So I took a ride home, picked up his watch and returned late in the afternoon. He woke up again, and I put the watch around his wrist telling him that he has to lift his left arm with his right in order to see anything from the watch. So he reached for his left arm, found it (which is great) and pulled a little, but being weak it didn't work. I helped him a little and all of a sudden he really pulled hard, and at the same time lift his head and looked at his own watch. This is really fabulous. And he said "tell Ron (his brother in law, who is a physician) and tell me what do I have to do more?" So to me this feels that Frank is regaining his fighting spirits.
And with typical Frank understatement, the last noteworthy words of today when the nurse asked, "how was sitting in the chair today" Frank replied "much a do about nothing....." so it also seems his witt and humor is still there.
Hope to hear or read other experiences with Frank over here. I'm looking at the statistics of the blog and it is read in about twelve countries with around 1200 hits........
Well it is something, under the given circumstances, and Frank knows it, he keeps asking for the url, we read to him what is posted etc. Great for him.
Thanks for all you followers.
I've done my share for today, bye bye
Thousend times thanks!
To all the followers of the blog, to anyone who has been supportive of Frank or us in the last months and especially after his untimely death we want to say thanks from the bottom of our hearts. In the week after his passing we received so much warmth, stories, care and love, hardly describable. To us it was a very precious and valuable week and it was so good to have Frank at home where so many of his friends could visit him. And all the help, stories and info shared in that week led to a beautiful goodbye ceremony on a beautiful sunny autumn day. For those of you who could not attend, or those of you who wish to reread the funeral speeches, we publice them here (in dutch and english) with some pictures in grateful memory of, and tributed to Frank.We will miss him dearly, thanks for being with him and with us, one way or another,
On behalf of my family and his closest friends, Esther