So...., he has a television with dvd-player, radio with remote control, books, dvd's and how do we and the other inhabitants of the nursing home know that it's Frank's stuff? Well some very nice nurses spend tonight quiet some time finding stickers to put on his belongings. And...they turned up with the most ugly green stickers you can imagine, but for it's goal very very effective. So Andre and I stickerd just about anything we could find and I decided to sticker Andre as well, for being "part of the furniture" (no offense Andre, just kidding, you know how much I appreciate what you're doing). So beware off the green sticker, once your taged........
All the books and dvd's are in the cupboard beside his bed in the bottom drawer. Tomorrow Rense will help to find some more stuff in Franks appartment, it's truly going to be a challange to find what he wants in his enormous library and collection of books and dvd's. Frank was happy with his books on the Zulu war and victory I brought him today, he indicated that he'd missed them and started to read immediately. Frank's said that "reading is no problem" so that's great, but it does cost him a lot of energy. Tomorrow the occupational therapist will help to find a way to make it easier for frank to read, it is a little difficult right now to hold the book and turn the pages laying on his back with one hand. So I hope they figure out something really smart.
Although I feel that Frank is improving bit by bit (very slowly) it is clear to me that he's having a very hard time. He told me that sleeping was difficult due to lot's of worries. Or as he said, "will it work out well or not (in typical Frank dutch: "wordt het iets of niets"). What he wishes for is to return to his home, with some help, but we all feel that it's going to be very difficult, not to say impossible, to achieve that goal. It makes him sad and although he is really giving the best he can he is also very aware of the situation he is in and the big big problems he's facing. And realizing that, tonight he told us, a part of him is longing for salvation. I assured him that wathever his path may bring, we'll stick together and we'll guide him through this horrible journey or, better fitted term for Frank, battle.
One of the things that really helps to keep up his spirits are postcards, letters etc.etc. And also the reactions to the blog. We read them to him and he wants to go and read the blog himself. So post messages and if it doesn't work just send me an email, than I post it for you.
Well that's it for today, and remember if you see anyone with it an ugly green sticker.... it belongs to Frank.
All the best Esther
Thousend times thanks!
To all the followers of the blog, to anyone who has been supportive of Frank or us in the last months and especially after his untimely death we want to say thanks from the bottom of our hearts. In the week after his passing we received so much warmth, stories, care and love, hardly describable. To us it was a very precious and valuable week and it was so good to have Frank at home where so many of his friends could visit him. And all the help, stories and info shared in that week led to a beautiful goodbye ceremony on a beautiful sunny autumn day. For those of you who could not attend, or those of you who wish to reread the funeral speeches, we publice them here (in dutch and english) with some pictures in grateful memory of, and tributed to Frank.We will miss him dearly, thanks for being with him and with us, one way or another,
On behalf of my family and his closest friends, Esther