Thousend times thanks!

To all the followers of the blog, to anyone who has been supportive of Frank or us in the last months and especially after his untimely death we want to say thanks from the bottom of our hearts. In the week after his passing we received so much warmth, stories, care and love, hardly describable. To us it was a very precious and valuable week and it was so good to have Frank at home where so many of his friends could visit him. And all the help, stories and info shared in that week led to a beautiful goodbye ceremony on a beautiful sunny autumn day. For those of you who could not attend, or those of you who wish to reread the funeral speeches, we publice them here (in dutch and english) with some pictures in grateful memory of, and tributed to Frank.We will miss him dearly, thanks for being with him and with us, one way or another,

On behalf of my family and his closest friends, Esther

Foto's Frank

donderdag 7 april 2011

Arrival at a new phase

This morning Frank has been transferred (thanks to Rense for pointing out the differenc between transfer and replace) to nursing home margriet.
The ambulance ride wasn't Franks favourite, but upon arrival he woke up and participated very adequatly during the intake conversation. It was great to notice that his memory seems very ok; for old stuff, but also for new information, he new where he'd been brought to.
My first impression of the nursing home is very positive, I felt very welcome, the atmosphere was very homely (don't know whether this translate the dutch word huiselijk correctly) and although it is an old building from which you understand a new one is neccesary, it was clean, bright, well coloured etc. Frank shares a room with just one other person, and it is on ward 3 (which is in the second stock). He told the nurse that he want to get rid of his feeding tube and she rerplyed, "great, that's exactly what we want" and that pleased Frank. Today also the physiotherapist (fysio), occupational therapist (ergo), speechtherapist (logo), physician etc. ect. will visit him so the expectation is that he will be exhausted at the end of the day.
However, as Rense blogged, now the time has come to reactivate Frank anyway we can, as the nurse said "bring the outside world in". So visitors are very welcome. The nursing home has no fixed visiting hours (welcome from 10.00-22.00), but now that I've read the information folder I understand that:
- visits from more than one person at the time are to be held in the centeal room (downstairs), so that other patients won't be disturbed
- between 13.00-14.30 and after 19.00 pm visits in the sleeping room are not allowed also because of rest for other patients.
I checked just now with the nurse and the message is: we're very liberal so if frank is alone in his room after 19.00 you're allowed to visit him, but follow the directions from the nursing staff, and realize that he is still very tired and that his energy span still is very minimal.
letters and/or postcards are very welcome and we're gonna make sure some of his own atmosphere will appear in his room. Frank also requested a telephone, so perhaps it soon will become possible for the friends (especially from abroad) to talk to/with him.
Having said this, I hope you all understand that this is to be developped in the future weeks step by step every day, gradually returning back to his life.

The visiting/postal adress is
Verpleeghuis Margriet
T.a.v. dhr. Frank van den Bergh, dept. 3
Dr. Claas Noorduynsstraat 5
6522 AS Nijmegen
0031-24-3275111 / 3275133

So far for today folks, any questions, post them here and we'll answer and inform you.
Regards Esther

1 opmerking:

  1. Hello everybody,

    My daughter Angelique has two ideas. First one is, does Frank own an i-pod. We can put his favorite CD's one it for him to listen to. Big advantage: it can be operated mostly with one hand. If he doesn't own one Angie will lend him hers for about 6 months after which she needs it herself again. Question for our many ICT friends: can you put audio-books (Esthers idea) on an i-pod and how do you do that?
    Second idea: when Franks awareness and eyesight improve what about an e-reader? It's lightweight and can also be operated mostly with one hand and it's screen is not tiring to the eyes. E-books are not expensive and I myself have about two dozen SF-books on CD-ROM with the express permission from Bean publishing to copy them for non-commercial purposes. Frank himself has an external hard-drive with books on it. Again question for our many ICT friends: can you put these books on an e-reader and how do you do that? Input on this will be welcome.